Count the Little Things

Gratitude is more than a social nicety; it’s an important tool that reassures your partner that her efforts are both noticed and appreciated. Most people want to receive thanks for their deeds, even if it's for something that they’re supposed to be doing. When life runs smoothly, people often take for granted the small labors that make that possible. For Week 11 in 52 Love, express your gratitude for those small tasks that improve your life.Has it been years since you last filled your gas tank or mowed your lawn? Does the laundry fairy fold your socks and place them neatly in your drawer? Do plates and cups magically vanish from the dishwasher and appear in the cupboards? Unless you have a maid or lawn service responsible for those blessings, your partner deserves to hear, “Thank you.”The power in these two words, especially when the recipient isn't expecting them, can make her feel seen, appreciated, and treasured. Saying thank you is a simple and effective way to acknowledge your partner's value to you. Even if you think she knows you appreciate her efforts, strengthen your bond with frequent reminders.Many people offer these gestures as a reflex to strangers, yet this courtesy is even more important among intimates. Take care to recognize the time your partner spends to make life easier for you, especially given that we are such a time-deprived society. Acknowledge her contributions as a sign of respect. Like the old Tibetan phrase says, “If you take care of the minutes, the years will take care of themselves."Give your acknowledgment the power it deserves. Don't say it in passing. Make your gratitude a moment. Take your partner by the hand, look her in the eyes, and tell her that her efforts matter. Let her know that the things she does make your life more pleasant and enjoyable. And for that, you love her.If you try this intimacy tip or have a better recommendation, let me know in the comments. For weekly suggestions on how to show your partner love, sign up for my blog, 52 Love, in the sidebar.  (This post was updated since its original publication on March 18, 2019.)[contact-form][contact-field label='Name' type='name' required='1'/][contact-field label='Comment' type='textarea' required='1'/][/contact-form]