Let Your Fingers Do the Talking

Stress gets to the best of us. And though deep conversation can help with relaxation, try something different for Week 14 of 52 Love: pamper your partner by massaging a non-sexual body part.

Are there any? No, not really. Any part of your body (especially your mind) can become an instrument for sexual pleasure. The twist for this week’s loving gesture is to focus on a part of the body not primarily associated with sex. Trust me. You’ll get there.

Non-sexual massage allows you to serve your partner with love—to care for your partner’s body. Notice I said non-sexual, not non-sensual. Whether you kneel before your lover to caress tight thighs or straddle his back and rub his bare shoulders, your loving act stimulates affection with this less-lusty form of physical intimacy. Soothe sore muscles with smooth strokes. Delve deeper to relax unwanted tension. Nourish the skin you adore with the rhythmic pulse of your palms. The love you feel will pass from your flesh to his.

On a small scale, this act can enhance an uneventful evening: a scalp massage while he reads a book, a hand massage as you watch your favorite series together. Expand the experience by including more of your lover’s body. Wrists. Elbows. Knees. Toes. Explore your partner in ways you haven’t. Learn his skin and his reaction to your touch. This wordless communication will speak volumes in a language reserved for only you two.

Bonus points for surprising your sweetie after a shower. Imagine his elation as he dries off with a warm towel and steps into the serene milieu of a personal spa. Prepare soft linens, light candles, and conduct your massage to the score of his favorite relaxing tunes. Heat scented oils to glide over his skin while you caress him, kneading away needless worries with your touch, your time, your service. In this case, fingers, not words voice your love.

If you try this intimacy tip or have a better recommendation, let me know in the comments. For weekly suggestions on how to show your partner love, sign up for my blog, 52 Love, in the sidebar.  (This post was updated since its original publication on April 10, 2019.)