We focused on attire the last two weeks. This week, we continue the fashion trend. You’ve dressed each other. Now, it’s time to dress yourself. In style. Fancy clothes sometimes feel like an indulgence reserved for an outside cause. For Week 28 of 52 Love, let that cause be each other. You and your partner will dress for a night on the town. Then stay home.
This week, as you prepare for a dinner date at home, let your personality shine through. Clothing and fashion choices are key parts of self-expression. In previous weeks, you’ve paid attention to your partner’s wardrobe preferences. If your choices do not reflect those, perhaps part of your evening’s conversation can include the motivations for your selections. For most, what we wear and how people react to it affect our self-esteem. Use this opportunity to reveal your vulnerability and deepen your intimacy. Encourage your partner to do the same.
Mood and clothing are intertwined. Dressing special will make you both feel special. Posture shows alertness. Alertness shows interest. Your posture improves when you dress well, which leads to a more attentive encounter with your partner. Even the ritual of preparing yourself for a night out will boost your spirits. Embrace the excitement of dressing up even though you plan to stay home.
Pay the usual attention to grooming as you would if you intended to leave the house. If you wear makeup, brush on a glamorous look. No matter where you use your razor, apply a fresh shave. Accessorize. Spritz cologne. Wear shoes. You can kick them off after dinner, when you are in the relaxing phase of your evening. But to start your at-home date, complete your ensemble with a sexy boot or designer heel, whatever makes you feel most attractive.
Even if you keep the dinner simple, or order takeout, dress up your surroundings as well. Tidy the applicable areas of your home. Light candles. Use cloth napkins. If you’re a paper plate household, pull out the real dishes and flatware. Create an ambiance with the setting that suits your evening’s agenda. As a bonus, open a favorite bottle of wine and enjoy to your heart’s content.
The important thing is that you and your partner create an environment conducive to celebrating your love and demonstrating your importance to one another. Instead of making a statement to the world with your clothes, you’re declaring your love for each other. You are reason enough for me to look my best. You are what makes the occasion special.
If you try this intimacy tip or have a better recommendation, let me know in the comments. For weekly suggestions on how to show your partner love, sign up for my blog, 52 Love, in the sidebar.
Really cool piece, Tonya!
Thank you!